[Originally published October 25, 2013]
Weekends can be crazy with soccer games, sleepovers, world-series playoff parties, and other such activities.
Sometimes there is a quiet one in mid-winter when nothing’s going on, but the other 3 seasons – whew! Busy, busy, busy.
What can you do to create a loving peaceful weekend with your family among all this craziness? It’s a mystery sometimes for sure. Then you blink, and you realize the kids are much bigger than they should be. Where does the time go?
Here are 5 easy things you can do to make your weekends at least a bit more peaceful:
- Schedule family meals. I know it’s cliche, and everyone from The Today Show to Dr. Phil recommend eating together. But sometimes it really does take effort to figure out how that’s going to fit into your schedule, what you can cook that won’t completely wear you out, and balancing that all with wanting to make it memorable and special. Tall order – right? Just relax first, and then do your best. Don’t make it too elaborate, try to include all family members in the prep, and don’t take it heart if no one likes the food. Heck, it’s a rare meal in our family when everyone is pleased with the menu – oh well. We’re still eating together darn it. That’s enough.
- Go with the flow. So there are a ton of things to do – oh well. Remember that it’s easier to go with the current than struggle against. When something comes up that you cannot do because the current is taking you in a different direction – see step 3.
- Keep a list of things you want to make time for. You can do this in a small notebook or on a fancy phone app. Oh crap – the dog really needs a nail clipping, but I keep forgetting. Write it down. When you do this, it takes the immediate stress of, “OMG don’t forget this – you forget everything!” off of you. It’s like creating a system, but much easier.
- When you start to feel stressed out, close your eyes and take 5-10 deep breaths. (Obviously not while driving.) The more you can get in the habit of physically relaxing, the easier it is to handle more and more. This is a great tip, and I keep harping on it because it totally works.
- Give affection when you can. Hug those kiddos and spouses. This not only makes them feel better, it makes you feel better too. I am always amazed how quickly we forget to do this, and how much better family life is when we remember.
Give ‘em a try. You won’t be disappointed!